I’ve been doing lots of healing for the better half of 7 years now. The healing comes in waves as do the wounds that resurface. When those wounds turn to scars, untreated wounds start to show. Now, you all know I’m not one for divulging personal information online simply because it’s not my style but today I deviate from my usual mode of operation. If my sharing validates another’s trauma; today, I share and I tell you that you are not alone.
I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. It’s often the case that survivors bear guilt and/or shame for the trauma we are not at fault for. Why feel guilt or shame if it wasn’t our fault? Because in many cases we are made to believe it was. And as men, those feelings may magnify and our chances of doing the work to heal are lessened. We are socialized to dominate our emotions to prove our manhood; And that’s already an realistic standard to live by. For male survivors, that must be way too much weight to bear. No back is strong enough; it may one day break.
April is Child Abuse Awareness Month, and I share this with you all as an attempt to shatter the silence many of us survivors hold. Breaking our silence helps to eliminate the social and cultural taboos that hovers over talking about abuse. For those that know little about child abuse, inform yourselves on all forms of abuse. If you aren’t already, one day you will be parents, aunts, uncles (and so on), and you ought to know all the signs, effects and ways to help a child who is being subjected to neglect, physical, mental, emotional and/or sexual abuse.